(sometimes, you disappear from your own wedding.) At first, it feels harmless. Adding another table “to avoid conflict.” Changing a song “to make someone happy.” Adjusting the ceremony “so no one feels offended.” And slowly, something shifts. The wedding starts looking like a giant compromise where everyone left their mark… except you. Wanting to make people happy isn’t the issue. The issue is when your own experience comes last. Because when you spend all your energy managin